I am curious

So tell me - why are relationships so hard??
What exactly is love? or like - at all? does it even exist? Then what about hate? and anger? and disappointment and sadness..

Why does hate seem to prevail more than love? Why does hate or anger seem to be easier than love?

Is it really that hard to love? Are we humans really that hard to love?


Trying to come to terms with the events that has been happening the past few months. Just picking on one relationship that exists at home - and expanding it - and suddenly you realise that the same attitude, the same situation, the same observation seems to be everywhere.

Why exactly do we love? or rather, why exactly do we always seem to hate while loving? is it true that hate is a part of the love experience? or that it is necessary to hate in order to know that we know? or is it that sometimes we can hate so deep that we forget about having ever loved?

ok, i don't really mean hate in the way of extreme hatred/detestation, not in the i-want-to-kill-you-if-i-see-you kind of hate, no okay yea, maybe some parts are that kind of hate. But mostly, no.


Questions i ask myself and don't really know how to answer.

Wellll, ya. it's easy to be angry and upset at the person you love. But mostly it's because your expectations are not met - which can go either way: that your expectations are too high, that the other person is not performing up to expectations - which to each their own.

But why is is not easy to love?

If it is said that having expectations is a natural human tendency, but so is the human need for love and affection; the longing for comfort and companionship.

So when it is that two people fall in love, how is it that they should stay in love?



I don't know and so do I know that it is not for me to say what you all should be doing (to make things better), but I do know that from the sidelines, it is a very painful episode to watch and I just hope that it will all be over soon.